So I have this friend.... No really. Its not me. I'm not that kind of person. If this was my issue, I would just come out with it. Besides...no one reads my posts anyways! Haha! Anyway back to the problem. So my friend, Carly (names will be changed on the off chance anyone reads this and I have to protect the innocent) and her best friend in the entire world, Lisa, both like the same guy. Carly has liked him on and off and Lisa has liked him for a while too, but Carly is my friend and I don't know Lisa because she goes to a different school, and Carly is unsure how long Lisa has like this guy (his name is Brian). Anyway, Carly recently told Lisa that she doesn't like Brian anymore. Lisa still had feelings for him. Then Carly was hanging out with Brian at a church event Friday Night, (I don't know where Lisa was, and they all go to the same church. Carly at least is a very dedicated Mormon. I do not go to their church) and remembered why she had liked him in the first place.
Here's why she claims she forgot:
1. She doesn't get to see Brian that often and he doesn't come to many of the events I guess
2. Lisa goes to the same school (different town,but as far as I know they are all the same age) as Brian and Carly doesn't, so it just seemed right to back off for her friend. I don't know Brian either, to be clear.
3. Its not the same remembering the last time you saw someone you like and actually seeing them. (I agree with this one. Not to say I disapprove of the others)
So she doesn't know what to do. Lisa keeps telling Carly about how much she and Brian talk and I guess this bothers Carly. Carly loves Lisa and doesn't want to let this come between them, but doesn't know if she should tell Lisa how she feels or just keep it a secret. I told her I didn't know what to say. I don't want her to be in a fight with her best friend (luckily, I don't experience that very often because me and my best friend don't fight that often [<3 u KMG] but I know it would be sad) On the other hand, she feels weird when its her, Brian, and Lisa all together and Lisa gets to throw herself all over Brian and Carly has to pretend she only wants to be friends.
Carly thinks she and Brian are more compatible and that Brian would choose her over Lisa. I'm pretty sure thats flat out bias, but like I said, I don't know Lisa or Brian, and of course, we can't just call Lisa and ask who she thinks he likes better or ask Brian who he likes better. She would never, and I wouldn't do that to her either. Anyway, I'm really the one she comes to for all her advice, so if anyone reads this, please leave a comment about what Carly should do. Should she tell her friend or keep it a secret? Is it even okay for her to like him after promising she didn't/wouldn't? I don't want to give her a bum-steer here, but I also don't want to leave her hanging. What do you think?
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